Should Criminal background Checks be Apart of the Dating Process?
Posted by PopLover FEATURE, Love n Relationships 1:48 PM
An older woman in a swanky Harlem bar cackled old folk twang with her senior gal pals. Topics ranged from new Pepsodent improvements, to dialysis checkups, and last but surprisingly not least, the almighty love and relationship piece. "there aint no men left for the women round these parts, " gagged one lady. "nun but dem ole criminal kinds...sheesh, we women aint tryna date serial killers an' rapists," parched another. thought the dating scheme was over for the older gems of mankind but in a recent CBS interview with Chet Michaels, 77, it highlighted the increase in senior citizens turning to online matchmaking directories, like E Harmony and Match.com, to find love. In the words of Michaels, "I was at a point where I thought, 'Well, I'm not going to find that person.' And I was getting a little sad at that time, because the years go by and I didn't want to be alone," he says. "I thought I'm going to go for it. I'd rather do that than go to a bar." Two thumbs up for him.
Anyway, getting back on track, as the conversation continued, a young, contemporary chick, (let's call her "Sway," put her five cents in and calmly said "Well, what you don't know can't hurt you." What else, ladies and gents, could she have upheld, but the policy of "don't ask, don't tell?" The only appropriate question at this juncture would be, 'well, should women run criminal background checks on their potential lovers?' And...if yes, who should pay for it?
In a focus group conducted by Life and Style Union, five women and five men were placed in a solitary room, under the auspices of a Speed Dating Event. Prior to the event, each of the men were given cue cards, and written on them, a short and "delightful" personal description- "Child Molest," read one, "Financial Racketeer," read another, the rest " Serial Killer, Thief, Grand Larceny," you get the picture? The men were told to conceal these cue cards from the five women until prompted. An icebreaker began. None of the men, as directed, disclosed their criminal history, rather highlighted the more glam parts of their lives- food, children, fashion, entertainment, careers, the works.The women were observed to be very content with what they saw and heard. Then the drama unfolded.
After the icebreaker, the men held up their cue cards, each detailing a crime they had committed. Gasps filled the room. One woman said with a smile "I understand the message." Another exclaimed "I WOULD HAVE NEVER KNOWN BUT WHAT THE HECK! NOW I SHOULDNT DATE A MAN WHO HAS ALL THE SHIMMERY TRAITS I DESIRE? WHY? BECAUSE HE'S A RACKETEER? BIG DEAL!"
Her comment was rather interesting, as it suggested she'd prefer "not knowing" over awareness. From another perspective, she could have meant that because racketeering is deemed a "white-collar" crime, it shouldn't serve as grounds for not pursuing a relationship with the offender. Can running a criminal background check on a potential lover minimize the possibilities of a woman ever finding love? Frankly, today's society is riddled with misdemeanors and felonies. Celebrities are venerated for having spent time behind the iron cage, while laymen attain street cred. Does having a criminal record entirely influence a woman's attraction to a man? Or does it depend on the type of crime committed- the "oh he just pistol-whipped her once, and that was when he was 18, he 30 now," kinda deal? What's your take?
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Exclusive: Donnell Jones Speaks of his Return and on Kanye West's "Runaway"
Posted by PopLover FEATURE, The Showroom 1:17 PM
Rhinoplasty Seems to be the Newest Fall Must-Have
Posted by PopLover Entertainment Scope, FEATURE 1:00 PM
But we've all seen plastic surgery take a turn for the worst in the faces of our most fave celebs and socialites. Let's take Nene Leakes for example, the fashion and gossip powerhouse of Bravo's hit reality show Real Housewives of Atlanta. Her husband Greg didn't even show up to support his wife's facial project! Poor Nene. I love the aftermath, but I've been hearing some banter of random viewers, and they are not at all concurring with me on this one.
Natalie New Haven, CT
@ PopLover: She looks like she can't breathe.
Joston San Juan, PR
@PopLover: Shall I say clothing pins don't belong on the face, moreso the nose. Nene take them off before you pass out.
Riley NY, NY
@PopLover: Nene went to join her scarecrow ex-friend Dwight in Holy Plasticsurgerymony. 2 thumbs down, and the doctor who did it ought-to be stoned.
Ay NY, NY
No to the nose job no to the short lace front no to her loud @ss, Nene is a bit much! Lol These comments and many more have, in a way..forced me to think twice and really examine the medical artistry of Nene's nose, and I must say, I prefer her previous, natural asthetic. What do you guys think? OR should people just leave the woman alone because more than half of the veiwers of RHWOA are probably broke and don't have the finances to fix their "unlikeable parts" with plastic surgery ANYWAY! Hey...I'm just sayin....
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Jennifer Hudson & Weight Watchers : The Start of a New Saga
Posted by PopLover FEATURE, Zen Hut 1:21 PM
So! We've all seen the new and improved Jenny from the block, waist the width of a Pepsi can, we all dived in on the buzz fat exterminator plan Weight Watchers to see if Ms.Hudson went under the knife OR IN FACT, used discipline and copious food documentation to drop the lard! Life and Style Union had to get in on the skinny and try it out our selves with the help of...our experiment variable, Miss Marjorie Jacqueline straight out of glamorous NYC. She agreed to keep us posted on her latest progress with her newly started WeightWatchers diet plan! At 45 years old, after giving birth to a new baby boy, MJ is gearing up for her slimming frenzy! Great. Now let's see the proof right? So she started October 22, 2010 at 186lbs. It's been roughly 1 week. Progress? Total of five pounds. Images coming soon. Gotta see to believe!
Follow MJ on "The Journey" located on Life and Style Union's homepage (right next to "Contact Us") to dig in on her meals and exclusive recipes your galpals would enjoy...and the portions! By Golly. Talk about Eat whatever you want and lose however much weight you want. Since when???
Thank ya J. Hud for the inspiration. Kelly Osbourne just wasn't doing enough for the Ebony Thicky Chickies. She's been "K.Od" like her intials....Get it?? LOL (I can't knock her fully though, she looks great! Love you Kellz)
Side Note: Gabourey Sidibe....need I say more?